As a healer – nutritional, emotional and spiritual – I often learn through experience in order to be able to help my clients better. I can have more empathy for their situations and help them through whatever issue they are going through. Be it physical or emotional. Or sometimes both. My learning through experience allows me to help you, the client better. It sometimes stinks, like this past weekend, but it also makes me real.
This past week, I had a breakup of what I thought was a really great relationship.
This relationship was great in so many ways. We had a brain and heart connection! We would cook together, we would laugh together, we would go dancing. We would go ice skating, shoot hoops and rollerblading, some of his activities which I had not done in over 15 years. He was patient, loving and kind. We could talk for hours, or just snuggle watching a movie, sipping wine. He took care of himself with the right foods. He chose organic as often as he could. He cooked his own meals and meals for us to share. He dressed well. We had fun! A lot of it.
But when he suddenly ended it last Friday, I had to go through the grieving process and try to understand what had happened. Why? It seemed so good except for the part that I could get him to express his emotions yet he showed it with actions. And that I could accept. I could be patient. He showed me that he loved me. That was good enough. Or was it?? Who knows.
Now I had to experience the grieving process, healing a broken heart and see how the tools I had would work to help me work past this and try to work past it quickly! I had work to do this weekend! (of course, I hardly did any…)
I spent the first night in shock. The next morning in tears, I chose an essential oil, geranium to put on my heart. Looked it up in my Emotions book – perfect for a broken heart. The tears stopped shortly there after. And I sniffed it every time I felt them coming on.
Then I got into the grief stages of anger and frustration – with God, the Universe, my ex and myself. How could I have been wrong again? How could I have been betrayed again? I was clear with my intentions, no?
Yet, when I did my inner work, channeled messages, used essential oils and The Path To Heal energy work to get clarity on the situation, it was revealed that I was not ‘enthusiastically myself at all times” with him. Really? WTH? I am always myself, I thought! I only know how to be me!
Then happy hour with friends which always helps! Even if I did have 2 martinis which is pretty much all I ate that day. I felt better with laughter with my friends. I did not want to analyze the relationship and what had happened. I just did not want to waste my energy on that. I just wanted to get back to choosing happiness despite my rejection. I somehow managed to skip through the one stage of depression – happy hour?
The tears started to flow again upon getting home. So I quickly put on my flannel pj’s,sniffed some more geranium oil and decided to do yoga. It helped and I weny to sleep. Well, kind of. With a 12 AM wake up call, I took lavender essential oils and sprinkled it on the pillow and on my feet – I did get back to sleep. At 2 AM, I had to resort to a sleeping pill. Yes, I have them on hand for emergencies.
Then Sunday morning, with more geranium for the tears, Path to Heal sessions on myself and on now ex BF, and more essential oils for healing and transition (helichrysum), I got my A-HA! I was able to get into acceptance and return to my normal self. I realized I had not been able to share some of the spiritual aspects of my work with him which was why I was not enthusiastically myself at all times. I didn’t share my energy work (Path to Heal) and essential oils (I tried). I could not go back and try it either!
I did my learning through this experience that the combination of The Path and essential oils help with overcoming the grief, anger, sorrow, frustration and get you to acceptance quickly. For me, less than two days. Yes, 2 days. I managed the steps of grieving much faster with these tools than I would have without them. I most certainly recovered from the rejection faster than ever before!
Sometimes, I get challenges just like my clients do. I am human, right? Remember my hip replacement 2 years ago? I learned you can eliminate pain with food (and with The Path To Heal). And, I am learning through experience to help my clients better. I now know the power of the essential oils coupled with The Path To Heal really work wonders. I know this first hand! Are you ready to find out for yourself? Try a Path To Freedom session today.
Joanna is a master practitioner of The Path To Heal. She is also a holistic nutrition coach helping you nourish you on all levels – body, mind and soul!